what we really want is to feel known
and to feel seen
and not to feel like we are having
to maintain a façade
that hides who we are.
And so the best relationships are those
where we feel we can be ourselves.
WPR: And you talked about how, really,
it's romantic relationships, friendships,
acquaintances,
I mean, all of these relationships matter.
But do you find that one of these is maybe
more significant than the other,
or how do you look at them?
RW: I look at it in terms
of the secure attachment we think about.
Attachment is a word for being warmly,
securely connected.
It’s the “Who can you call in the middle
of the night if you’re sick or scared?”
So I think of it in those terms,
not necessarily the person's role,
defined role in our life,
like romantic partner or boss.
But it’s the “Does this person
have my back?”
And so that's, I think,
the defining element
that we want to find
somewhere in our world.
WPR: So we have so many
member questions coming in, Bob,
and I'm going to kind of go through
a few more of them.